Depictions of intimate relationships saturate public consciousness. The most popular movies, novels, and songs are immersed in dramas of love. Taken for granted by the entertainment industry and ordinary people alike is the seemingly innocuous declaration that we “fall in love”. While certainly innocent, lurking beneath this expression is a hidden premise which invalidates the original intention.

Problem of the Fall

The problem with this phrase are the verbs fall, fell, or falling. A brief glance at a dictionary shows that these words are overwhelmingly associated with negativity. Consider a few definitions of fall:

  • “To drop or descend under the force of gravity, as to a lower place through loss or a lack of support
  • To come or drop down suddenly to a lower position, especially to leave a standing or erect position suddenly, whether voluntarily or not
  • To drop down wounded or dead, especially to be slain
  • To succumb to temptation or sin, especially to become unchaste or to lose one’s innocence.”

Let’s pursue the last definition, related to religion, a bit more. The Holy Bible is the best-selling book of all time. In the book of Genesis, Adam and Eve lived in paradise and complete unity with God. The scripture contends that the first couple disobeyed God by eating from the Tree of Life; introducing original sin into the world. Consequently, humanity was banished from the Garden of Eden and subjected to suffering – a tragedy known as The Fall.

Words and their implications matter. The verbs in circulation used to describe our loving relationships are overwhelmingly associated with decline, tragedy, and death. Unless we are willing to concede that our relationships are miserable, we are sending the complete opposite message. In the interest of being more sincere, we must substitute these verbs for more positive ones.

Rising in Love

Love is that which uplifts us. Therefore, the verbs rise, rose, and rising are more suitable for describing these relationships. These terms are conceptually linked to improvement, triumph, and resurrection.

After The Fall, the loving relationship with God was broken. Since “God so loved the world” (John 3:16), He sent His son – Jesus Christ – to absolve humanity of its sins. The scripture says that He sacrificed His life and died on the cross, but “the Lord has risen, indeed!” (Luke 24:34).

Instead of saying we fall in love, we should say we rise in love.