The most popular New Year’s Resolutions are staying fit or losing weight. For everyone who is looking to maintain or improve their physical health in 2017, I am sharing the story of my trials and triumphs in the battle for fitness. While everyone has a different physical and psychological make-up, I hope that these words can help motivate others!
Before:
This is a picture of me and my better half – Elizabeth – between August and December 2014. At that time, I tipped the scale at roughly 195-200 pounds. I stand 5’8” – meaning my Body Mass Index was in the “obese” range. [Granted: BMI is an imperfect measure, but still a useful barometer]. I still remember what my thought process was when I bought that blue T-shirt: it had to be baggy enough to hide my “man boobs”. As you can see in the photo, I didn’t succeed.
Throughout my youth up until the age of 22, I had a slender body type. For this reason, when I began to put on weight, I was in a state of denial. When I grew out of my size 32 jeans into a 34 … and then a 36 … and then a 38 – I couldn’t face the truth. When I had to get my rings re-sized because they were too tight on my fingers – I couldn’t face the truth. Doing so would shatter my psyche.
I gave up on myself spiritually, so I let my physical health deteriorate as a consequence. I was unhappy with where I was in my life in relation to where I wanted to be. When I was in high school, I was bagging groceries. But years later, even with a Bachelor of Arts degree, I was still bagging groceries. Making matters worse was the fact that I was a cashier – meaning I was readily visible to all customers whenever I worked. I graduated from one of the best high schools in the country – and some of my peers would frequent that supermarket. Every time I saw someone from school – I wanted to die – because I knew they were judging me.
Additionally, despite having a romantic relationship and family, I began to feel lonely and estranged. I began to feel that my worldview and needs were incompatible with the world; and that everyone was out to get me, somehow.
There was a hole inside of me – and food was an attempt to fill it. And when I say food, I am not talking about salads and veggies; I am talking about large portions of fried chicken, pizza, and potato chips. I could polish off an entire bag of Sweet Chili Doritos in one sitting. Instead of eating to live, I lived to eat. I would wake up at 2 A.M. to raid the refrigerator – and then go back to sleep with crumbs all over my blanket.
Over-indulging served three psychological functions: 1). it was a temporary distraction from my problems, 2). it made me feel good temporarily, and 3). I was able to punish myself with foods I knew were unhealthy. This, of course, created a vicious cycle: I was lonely, so I ate, and gained weight – which decreased my self-esteem, which made me feel lonelier, pushing me to eat more, and gain more weight … ad infinitum.
A turning point came for me when I started to get compared to overweight celebrities. A co-worker of mine kept insisting I looked like Jordan Peele from the Key & Peele show. I mean … I understood because he is a black dude who sometimes wore glasses – but I was offended on the grounds that he is heavy-set. Then, one of my cousins said I looked like Tamar Braxton’s husband. I had never seen him before, so I had to Google him. When I pulled up his image, once again, I was offended because homeboy was about 300 pounds. That was the final straw! It finally clicked: the image I have of myself is not what people are seeing.
Around May 2015, I had a doctor’s appointment for a routine check-up. My least favorite part was stepping on the scale – because it always revealed a truth I was unwilling to confront. I hated getting my blood pressure taken, because I would always register in the “pre-hypertension” range. I was 193 pounds – but instead of making excuses, I demanded accountability from myself. So I promised my doctor that by my next appointment in 6 months (November), I would be down to no more than 170 pounds.
After:
After 6 months, these were the results:
I now weigh between 160 and 163 pounds – meaning I lost over 30 pounds! I went from a 38 inch waist to a 32/33. My blood pressure is now in the “normal” range. When I went back to my doctor’s office that November, he was unbelievably happy for me. My doctor paraded me around to the secretary so she could congratulate my hard work, lol!
I attribute my weight loss to at least 10 contributing factors:
1). Soul-searching. I had tried losing weight a few times in the past. What all of these attempts had in common was their failure to address the psychological roots of the problem. This time, I asked myself: why am I over-eating? What are the stressors that trigger this process? Once I brought the answers into consciousness, I gained a higher awareness over my emotions and could control my consumption.
2). A More Positive Self-Image. After realizing the reasons I was over-eating, I endeavored to raise my self-esteem. I had to combat the negative voice in my head which kept saying I deserved the torture being inflicted on my body. Over time, I began to develop a more positive self-image that demanded better.
3. Assess Nutrition & Keeping Track of Intake. I sat and jotted down what foods I ate, how much I ate, and when I ate it. Using the free cellphone app “Calorie Tracker” I saw the difference between what I was consuming and what my Daily Needs per the Nutrition Facts were. Every meal I ate, I recorded in the tracker which ensured I did not consume too many calories, or too much fat, salt, or sugar. I also purchased a scale and a tape measure, so that I could keep track of progress over the months.
4). Portion Control. Being busy or lazy were often contributing factors for not making healthier food choices. I often saw Jenny Craig or Nutrisystem commercials on television, where people purchased pre-portioned foods, placed them in the freezer, and warmed them up when ready to eat. So I went to the supermarket and bought a few days of Lean Cuisine or Healthy Choice meals at a time – that way I could get relatively cheap, healthy food in a reasonable amount of time. And, not to mention, the varieties they have are good!
5). Learning to Cook/Prepare Meals. There can be problems with relying almost exclusively on processed foods. But one of the reasons I was inclined toward them was that I did not know how to cook. To lose weight, I had to learn how to prepare my favorite foods. There is a treasure trove of recipes available online, so I learned a few healthy ways to prepare chicken, rice, pasta, etc.
6). Drinking More Fluids. Not only was I not drinking enough fluid, but I was drinking the wrong fluids. Juice and soda were all I drank – both in which are packed with sugar. The problem was: I do not like plain water, as the lack of taste is unbearable. To get all the health benefits of water and all the taste benefits of juice, I used Crystal Lite: a sugar-free powder that is added to water – giving it flavor. Another benefit of drinking more fluids is that it made me feel ‘full’ and consume less food.
7). Increase Physical Activity. While cutting back on intake is important, increasing physical activity helps boost metabolism. I went out and purchased a gym membership. Of course, I felt like a fish out of water during my first couple of trips – being around a bunch of muscle-heads who had a better grasp on their workout routines. But after a while, I overcame the self-consciousness, with the help of a pair of headphones. I made sure to visit the gym at least 3 times a week to do 30 minutes of cardio and/or strength training. After a while, the gym became a sanctuary in and of itself. Whenever a stressful situation confronted me, instead of coping by reaching for the chips, I went for a run.
8). Planning Ahead/Choosing Healthy Alternatives. One of my weaknesses is over-indulging at social gatherings to cloak the fact that the situation is boring, awkward, or both. Seeing as most functions are unavoidable, I had to start planning ahead. For instance, if I knew a family cookout was coming, I would either eat food at home, or bring food. If I was forced to dine out at a restaurant, I would order the healthiest option on the menu – which was typically the salad.
9). Don’t Be Too Hard. While losing weight is hard and requires discipline, it should not be a boot camp. The struggle is to have a regimen that is structured enough to produce results but loose enough to maintain sanity. An allowance must be granted for snacks – as long as they are in moderation. I could not cut out my beloved chips – so I would eat a small portion once a week. And sometimes, there were bad days where I ate too much of the wrong foods. When this happened, I simply forgave myself and moved forward.
10). Support From Loved Ones: All of these photographs are of my girlfriend and I. Theoretically, I could have cropped her out of the pictures, but that would’ve been unrepresentative of the entire process. She was instrumental in helping me along this journey. She was by my side every step of the way taking walks, going to the gym, eating healthy, and giving encouragement. I could not have done it without her unconditional support!
Every day, I struggle to maintain my physical fitness. It is a constant battle. But as long as I have support and keep these basic items in mind, I am confident that I can stay healthy! Hopefully you can too!
January 2, 2017 at 2:30 pm
Brotha Darryl this was remarkable. I really feel this post. Basically saying “Tareau your fat ass need to get back to it as well.” I hate those BMI indexes. Saying I’m OBESE. I’m 6’3″ and It says I’m suppose to weigh 220lbs. I haven’t weighed 220 in over 4 years. I do hate being big because from a primitive stand point you get challenged alot. The gym, the basketball court, supermarkets, dudes always wanna flex or poke out they chest. And while they doing all that, I’m talking to their girl hahahahaha. For me, it’s just motivation. I’m lazy. Extremely lazy. Losing weight was never a problem because if I worked out today for 2 weeks straight I would drop the weight no problem. I don’t have the commitment right now and I’m actually discussing that with my therapist. Congrats on your weight lost and getting your blood pressure back to normal.
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January 2, 2017 at 3:04 pm
Thanks Tareau! Lmao @ “while they doing all that, I’m talking to they girl”. Straight up and down! It’s all about the confidence and the spirit, my dude! You’ve listened to Biggie’s music … what I loved about his stuff is he rapped about being big and STILL getting all types of women. “Hearthrob? Never! … fat, black, and ugly as ever, however, I stay Gucci down to the socks, rings and watch filled with rocks and I’m damn hot in that Mitsubishi, girls pee-pee when they see me, Navajos creep me in they teepee”. Sure, he was rich so that played a part … but he had swag too. That’s major.
I hate those BMI indexes too. They paint with too broad a brush: they do not take muscle mass into account. Someone can be a body builder and be written off as “obese” based on those measures, so they definitely have to be taken with a grain of salt. I think as long as people’s blood pressure and such is cool and they are comfortable in their own skin, forget the BMI altogether.
As you said… the first two weeks are always the easiest time to lose weight, because that’s when the water weight and such is practically melting off. Ayy, if you want to lose weight, you’ll get around to it on your own time!
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January 2, 2017 at 10:10 pm
Now I feel slightly guilty for selling to you!
But I am SO glad you recognize the issue and are making moves to improve. Kudos
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January 2, 2017 at 11:33 pm
Hahaha u don’t have to feel guilty. Just for saying that imma workout tomorrow.
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January 3, 2017 at 9:06 am
Lol, that’s wassup bro!
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January 3, 2017 at 7:52 pm
Go, Tareau! Go!
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January 2, 2017 at 4:07 pm
Now see THAT’S WHUT UM TALB BOUT!
I loved, loved, loved this!
I sooooo loved how you allowed yourself to be vulnerable by sharing about your about low points in your life.
My son went through the same thing but his weight was due, in large part, to the fact that my family has a tendency to show love with food. That said, my father would cook or by anything he wanted.
Well, right before he went off to college, he dropped all that extra weight and got all buffed! Now he is an ACSM Certified Personal Trainer who is about to graduate with his BS in Biology from a major University!
Thank ya LORDT!!!!
By the way, whoever said you looked like Vince Herbert (Tamar’s hubby) was way off track! I don’t see it! Honestly I just wanna grab your cheeks in that first shot!
I guess that’s the Mama in me!
Oh, before I go, let me tell you what a lovely young lady ‘your better half’ is! You guys are gorgeous together! I pray that she is just as sweet and smart as she is pretty! But knowing you…she has to be 🙂
Thanks for sharing Darryl!
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January 2, 2017 at 4:28 pm
Hey Lady G!
Thank you so much for the feedback! To be honest, this was the most difficult content I have ever posted on my blog. I have all types of dense philosophy on here that were written in half the time that THIS took. Being vulnerable is not easy easy for me!
I feel what you are saying about being raised in an environment where there is a love for food. It is difficult when it is engrained like that. I am glad to hear that your son was able to shed the extra weight and become a certified personal trainer. That is wonderful!
Lol @ grabbing cheeks! Definitely reminds me of my out of state aunties lol. When my cousin said that I looked like Tamar’s husband, since I never saw him, I assumed he was a pretty boy lol. I was wrong lmao. When I pulled up Vince Herbert’s pic … I was like “oh hellll no”. Thing is: we was at our aunt’s funeral when he said that, so I guess I buried a version of myself that day, too.
Thank you for complimenting my lovely lady and I! She is great. She will be happy to hear your words!
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January 2, 2017 at 4:36 pm
Honestly, I knew this was more difficult for you that your usual content.
But guess what? Your followers and readers will appreciate you all the more for having the guts to post it!
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January 2, 2017 at 4:46 pm
Absolutely! Slowly climbing out of my shell. Thank you for noticing 😀
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January 2, 2017 at 4:51 pm
Remember, it’s your blog so you always have the right to share as little or as much as you’re comfortable with 🙂
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January 2, 2017 at 4:53 pm
Somewhere along the way, I forgot that for someee reason smh lol
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January 2, 2017 at 4:58 pm
I’m here to remind you! You already know that I feel like a surrogate Mama for you guys! LOL!!!
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January 2, 2017 at 5:00 pm
Lol! A much needed role here on WP, I swear! No limits on motherhood 😀
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January 2, 2017 at 5:05 pm
YAAASSSS!
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January 2, 2017 at 4:09 pm
Good grief look at the extra words and typos (*by should be buy!)
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January 2, 2017 at 4:29 pm
Haha, it’s all good! You just got a lil excited! Lol 😀
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January 2, 2017 at 4:36 pm
I know right? LOL!!
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January 2, 2017 at 4:24 pm
Congratulations on the weight loss! That’s truly inspiring. I’ve gained about 15 pounds due to overeating and stress and I would like to get back to my best shape so this is definitely motivation to do just that this year. Thanks for sharing your story!
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January 2, 2017 at 4:34 pm
Thank you my friend! You are already on the right track because you admit there’s a problem and pinpoint the cause. That is huge!
I am sure you’ll do great! Best of luck to you! 😀👍💪
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January 2, 2017 at 5:05 pm
Thanks! 🙂
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January 2, 2017 at 7:12 pm
Darryl! Thanks for sharing this my dude! This is one of the most complete weight loss approaches I’ve ever read. Most of the time people are too focused on a singular or only a couple of dimensions to drop the weight. I like your approach. I’ve got some pounds to drop myself. I’m gonna use your post as motivation!
Thanks again, bruh!
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January 2, 2017 at 7:36 pm
Hey Malakhai – you are right: most approaches are reductive, and that is part of the reason why I failed the first couple of times. I am glad this post is of value to you my dude! You’ll do great!
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January 2, 2017 at 10:18 pm
Just.. awesome. Good for you! I think many forget about the psychological aspects of taking on such a task. They think all they have to do is eat right and work out when, in truth, the mind needs to be fed right and worked out just the same.
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January 3, 2017 at 9:02 am
Thanks Kelley! You are right! There are a lot of fad diets out there that emphasize losing 5 pounds in a week, as if cutting down on food is all it takes. We are more than just metabolism machines … a lot of times, we become ’emotional eaters’ so we have to address that before anything else.
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January 3, 2017 at 7:56 pm
Right! I read something like “you know what’s better for you than kale? A healthy relationship with food.”
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January 3, 2017 at 7:59 pm
That is pure GOLD! That cuts straight to the heart of the matter in less than 140 characters lol
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January 3, 2017 at 9:37 pm
😉
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January 3, 2017 at 4:08 am
Your Progress is WOWZERS!!!! Amaz-Zing. Just like you!!! So happy for you and all your progress thus far!! 🙂
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January 3, 2017 at 9:07 am
Alia!!! Thank you so much my friend =D
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January 3, 2017 at 11:25 am
No problemo:)
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January 3, 2017 at 6:11 am
Congrats Darryl! Good for you, that is amazing! And — in my opinion, because you have gone to the spiritual root of overeating, you will be able to live healthily and keep the weight off. (Many who lose weight do not keep it off because they have not acknowledged the ‘hole in the soul’ problem about overeating. This is the same with any substance abuse.) Our relationship with food is one of constancy and intimacy, so sometimes it is very hard to ‘make peace’ and achieve balance. I like that you allowed yourself chips, it is important to have some goodies in the process! Thanks for sharing, and Happy New Year 🙂
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January 3, 2017 at 9:19 am
Hey Christine! Thank you! That is a good way of putting it: a hole in the soul. Whenever we have a vacuum inside us, we are governed by it in our desire to become whole. We have to find ways of reconciling these deep-rooted issues. Even if they cannot be immediately resolved, we have to find healthier coping mechanisms that do not feed into a vicious cycle. Thank you for the positive feedback and encouragement! Happy New Year! =D
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January 3, 2017 at 2:26 pm
Darryl, my dear, who told you that you look like Vincent Herbert III??? Show me so I can go tell them something! Seriously, I’m happy for you. You look like a much more content person now that you’ve lost weight. It’s funny how we feel about ourselves shows through either our energy, or our physicality, no matter what we try to do to cover it up. While I am happy you lost the weight, I’m more content that you seem to have gained a better sense of self.
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January 3, 2017 at 3:34 pm
Thanks hun 😀 You are right, I am more content now! My mother always says the way we look “tells on us”. So true. I am happy that I do not have to make what I used to call “fat calculations” anymore: sitting on the end of the row so I would not have to ask people to move, drawing attention to my weight; eating all I could at home so when I went to a cookout I wouldn’t get clowned for eating so much, etc. I am glad I have a stronger sense of self as a result of all this!
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January 3, 2017 at 3:00 pm
Ya girl is fine!!! LOL, but foreal and ya’ll look so nice together!
You know I loved this post because it is right up my alley! You figured out what most people never do – weight maintenance is mostly mental and emotional. It’s not the trillion dollar business of the latest workouts or gadgets that gets the job done – it’s the mindset 🙂
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January 3, 2017 at 3:39 pm
LOL, thank you for the compliment 😀 And yes, I knew you, out of everyone, would dig this post!! 💪I wish more people knew about the mental aspect of this, it’s definitely all about the mindset!
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January 4, 2017 at 8:50 am
That’s actually the whole purpose behind my blog/Soulance 🙂 ….. getting people to understand the holistic aspect of weight loss and weight management for personal health/self care…. and motivating individuals on that life-long journey. Mindset is a powerful thing!
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January 4, 2017 at 10:17 am
Absolutely! Glad you are here to inspire and teach 😀
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January 3, 2017 at 5:23 pm
This is awesome, great tips.
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January 3, 2017 at 5:24 pm
Thanks, glad this was of value to you!
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January 3, 2017 at 5:28 pm
You’re Welcome! Yes, Very interesting.
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January 4, 2017 at 12:27 pm
Kudos to you! Hypertension is the silent killer… as a medic and a medical examiner in my last life, I know this to be true. You are a doing a good thing for yourself and your beautiful gal. Keep up the wonderful work in your life so it will be long and healthy my friend! 🙂
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January 4, 2017 at 2:39 pm
Thank you! You are absolutely right: hypertension is the silent killer. So many people in my family have it and had to be put on medication to keep it under control. I am glad I am taking care of this for myself, my lady, and my future family =D Thanks for the encouragement!
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January 4, 2017 at 7:52 pm
And that’s the other sad issue is that it’s genetic so you may be predisposed, as it sounds like you are. So keep up the good work. 😄
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January 4, 2017 at 11:59 pm
Thank you 💪
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January 5, 2017 at 4:55 pm
great post. my weight always fluctuates. I also have a drinking problem, dealing with that now. Next up is getting this weight under control. keep writing 🙂
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January 5, 2017 at 7:28 pm
Thank you! It is good you acknowledge the problems, that is the first step. I wish you the best of luck! You’ll do great! 😀
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January 6, 2017 at 4:10 am
Congratulations man, I made weightloss a target last year…. then I went on holiday and it went bottoms up. I woke up, early hours on christmas day thinking ‘now is the time’ I look forward to reading more of your articles for inspiration!
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January 6, 2017 at 6:00 pm
Thanks bro! I know all too well about over eating during the holidays. It is good you have a new target this time around! You’ll do great!
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January 6, 2017 at 6:01 pm
Thanks man, I appreciate it 😊
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January 7, 2017 at 11:13 pm
Congrats you look great!
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January 8, 2017 at 3:35 am
Thank you so much! 😀 💪🙌
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January 8, 2017 at 12:44 pm
Great results. Well done!
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January 8, 2017 at 1:07 pm
Thank you Habiba! 😀💪
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January 13, 2017 at 12:44 pm
Great testimony. Thanks for sharing.
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January 14, 2017 at 5:33 pm
Thank you for reading =D
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January 14, 2017 at 6:28 pm
Great read and awesome advice! I look forward to watching you reach your goals.
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January 14, 2017 at 8:15 pm
Thank you 😃 Best of luck to you!
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January 15, 2017 at 11:25 pm
This post inspires me. Thanks for sharing your story.
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January 15, 2017 at 11:29 pm
I am glad to hear that! Thank you 😀
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January 15, 2017 at 11:32 pm
You’re welcome
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January 17, 2017 at 7:51 pm
You are amazing. Congratulations
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January 17, 2017 at 7:55 pm
Thank you so much =D
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January 25, 2017 at 9:38 am
Awesome
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January 25, 2017 at 11:39 am
Thank you!
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January 28, 2017 at 2:20 pm
Awesome points! So true. #8 planning ahead has been the biggest key for me in the past. If I wait to decide at game time it will be so much harder for me to pick the healthy option.
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January 28, 2017 at 8:45 pm
Thank you! I feel you! Being caught off guard by piles of food can get us into trouble – but at least if we know it will be there beforehand, we can counter the temptation a bit.
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January 28, 2017 at 6:03 pm
I hate being at work, unable to comment paragraphs in these little boxes. My creativity is so suppressed here *sigh*. Anticipate my reply after 9pm lol
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January 28, 2017 at 6:13 pm
Haha! I feel you! I prefer being in front of my comp so I can be free to type as much too. I look forward to your response!
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January 29, 2017 at 1:07 pm
First of all, Elizabeth is beautiful! Second, congratulations on the weight loss – you look awesome! Notice how I prioritized those? haha.
I can’t tell you how much I can relate to where you were with your world views; feeling estranged and lonely. This was part of the reason that I started down a journey of solitude. The stress that I was getting from my interactions with others just weighed on me and I couldn’t deal. I’m not sure how much of that has changed though lol.
On another note…I currently sleep with crumbs. LOL. They are my best friend. It takes an immense amount of self-control not to roll over and eat a few in the middle of the night!
Your tips are fantastic. I will say that portion control is my biggest struggle. The healthier my food choices are, the more of it that I consume. How counterproductive… 😦 lol. Anyway, congrats on your successful journey and thank you for sharing these great tips!
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January 29, 2017 at 6:13 pm
Ahhhhh I see you with the prioritization! Lol, that’s wassup! Thank you =D
Lol, you are hilarious: “I currently sleep with crumbs”. No lie, three times a week I have to remove my top sheet and shake all the crumbs off lol. I have that same bad habit of eating in the middle of the night. Deon Cole, a comedian, said: “if you aren’t supposed to eat at night, why did they put a light in the refrigerator?” lololol . One thing I am trying my hardest to do is purchase just enough food for dinner, so that I have no leftovers. That way, when I wake up in the middle of the night, there is nothing to eat. I ain’t finna drive to 7/11 at 2 A.M. in my fuzzy pajamas for some Sweet Chili Doritos, Josie … its not happening! lol. Its too cold for that nonsense here! lol
It sounds like we have the same eating habits lol: I have managed to prepare food in smaller portions, but sometimes I slip up and eat twice the amount, thus cancelling out the entire process lol.
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January 30, 2017 at 4:44 pm
lol @ the Deon Cole comment. That’s my type of guy (or girl. I’m assuming its a guy. At this point, I could have just looked it up but I’m so lazy lol).
Yes, we share the same struggle. Except, I am not against driving to 7/11 at 2 am . That’s when sh!t gets real. I’m forced to eat fast food and that’s a no go (except one grace-day of the week lmao). So I overstock my fridge to avoid doing so, and in turn, I either eat too much healthy food or I waste money as it rots. Sigh…
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January 30, 2017 at 6:37 pm
Lol too lazy to do a basic search but you’re more than happy to drive to the store at 2am. I see you, I see you lmao.
The struggle is real! Fast food is definitely a no go – but as long as you do it in moderation, I suppose it is fine! But I, on the other hand, have the metabolism of a glacier. If I eat a Big Mac, it will take me a whole week to burn it off. Fries? Those joints will set me back a month! lol.
You know what I did? As soon as I dropped the weight, I donated all my “fat clothes” to GoodWill lol. That way, unless I wanna buy another wardrobe, I have to cut down lol.
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February 1, 2017 at 6:24 am
A ‘weighty’ post Darryl! Were ‘straighteners’ used in the writing of this post….? lol (Just a link to black hair and white supremacy in a conversation we had many moons ago …)
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February 16, 2017 at 12:33 am
So much truth in one post. It all boiled down to being honest with oneself. The truth even when talking to self can be scary that’s why a lot of people hide from it. I am glad to hear that you faced your reality and took the necessary actions to take care of yourself. Keep up the good work! This needs to be read by most Americans BTW.
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February 16, 2017 at 12:36 am
Exactly! Thanks! The physical mirrors the psychological. It’s like there was a vacuum inside of me – once you can realize that, it makes matters a lot easier!
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February 16, 2017 at 12:38 am
Truth! Thanks for sharing your testimony. It will for sure help others.
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February 24, 2017 at 4:36 am
Good job and congrats on your healthier lifestyle!
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February 24, 2017 at 7:36 am
Thank you! It is a constant battle to maintain the results but I think I can do it 💪
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February 26, 2017 at 8:50 pm
You did it already Darryl! You look great and speak all positive things into existence….always.
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May 28, 2017 at 5:05 am
You both are a stunning couple. And congrats on all your hard work! ❥
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May 29, 2017 at 12:04 pm
Thank you!!
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June 11, 2017 at 9:03 pm
Got sidetracked from your most recent posts. Looking to be more upbeat. Found this one. My grandson was chubby from 12-16, and learned he could walk his weight off. Some out of necessity (wrong lifestyle), then because he preferred being slim. At first I missed his little round face. Of course now at 27 he’s slim, and has a cool beard. He’s not my little grandson anymore. And you!! Cover you girlfriends ears–You are a cutie pie now. You were alright before, but here in this latest pic you two look perfect together. Okay so back to June 2017, do me a favor and “Like” my new page: https://www.facebook.com/elvagreenbookpage/. Tryna get more traffic. Thanks!!
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June 12, 2017 at 7:26 am
Hello Ms. Elva!
I identify with your grandson’s struggle. It is tough being overweight – I always felt like people were judging me for it.
Thank you! I am relatively dark skinned but I am blushing, lol.
Thank you, as always, for visiting. I am going to sign into Facebook in a few to like your page!
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